When it comes to marriage, some people are persistent to make such thing comes true while some believe that it is not really necessary. Some people will get cranky when they're being asked about it. Especially when they already passed through the 'scheduled' time in where the society has insisted that they should have been married—along with the vibes that people bring which can make them feel less confident.
To certain ages, marriage can no longer be used as a joke. The question we ask may sound simple, for example, "when will you get married?". One day, I asked that question to one of my senior. She answered the question with a wry smile on her face "I did, once". And then I suddenly reminded of the truth that she already got divorced and now she is raising a kid on her own. I felt really sorry by the moment she answered the question and gave hear a bear hug. Sigh..
A friend of mine has acknowledged that he thought the marriage is something he doesn't really need in his life. Of course, some internal factors become the reason why did he think so. There was just two of us talking, so the statement sound a lil' bit strong in my ear. He said that he has plenty of dreams in the future—and by the presence of someone in his life, he thought that it will just obstruct him in reaching out that dreams of his. What an idealist.
I didn't blame him for the way his mind works, eventhough the statement he just barely spoken at that time somehow sounds mistaken. I also think that some people who are close to him will surely be disappointed. Moreover, when it comes to his family circle. By the way, he's going to be 31 by this year. So you can imagine the pressure he has been facing over years, especially everytime he's being told to find a life companion. I think that would be very way more disappointing to the woman who loves him—to get to know about his point of view about the need of marriage—which he thinks is not needed. Unless if that woman also has the same point of view that we still can survive without the presence of partner. But how would it be when two person with such point of view meet and fall for each other? Probably, they will just spend days by saying "I love you" to each other and forget it a day after until one reveal it all over again.
The divorce cases make some people don't believe in the sacredness of marriage. I often hear people said "even the married ones still has the possibility to get divorced" which pretty much sounds like "let's not be too surprised if any of us give up first because that's totally normal and that's how this life supposed to work"
The failures often make people do generalize. Some people don't believe in something before they experience, while some others experience without ever believe in it before. We tend to learn from the existing case, and that doesn't mean bad because being sceptical is also needed—eventhough we know that what each people are experiencing with different characters and level of intelligence will not be exactly the same. And there also goes a thing called fate, which is out of our business. You just can't generalize because obviously, it's not that every guys are jerk. It's not that every girls are slut. It's not that everyone who log on to Omegle is feeling horny.
A study concluded that what matters in one particular family is the presence of two biological parents. A children will do better when raised by a married mother and father. Thereby, the marriage is primarily needed. The conclution will turn otherwise if a children is raised by the un-married. Although there's no guarantee for the marriage to remain flawless. And yet, this life has nothing to compare with those well-written fairytale.
I believe in marriage with all the advantages and the shortcomings that follow. I believe in the hidden truth that two people who happen to love each other keep to themselves. I believe more in things people choose to be left un-shown.
Nobody wants to be homeless. So once you've commited marriage, that's the time you place a home within that person whom you choose. That's all you carry whenever you're alone together.
Whenever you see old couple that has been together for like over 30 years, don't think that they are the happiest or the most loyal couple alive. Think of the effort they've been doing in order to taking care of their "home" instead of how happy they might seem, because that's the time you start to compare.
